It Begins With a Call (Part 29): The Glass Half-Full

I recently suffered a long spell of feeling (and living) like a hermit. This is, of course, not inappropriate for winter, but it was not merely a time of turning inward.  I was not only not reaching out very much to friends, I wasn’t making plans that I knew I wanted to make.  Finally, one day I said to Barry, “I think I’m depressed, and I have been for quite a while.”  The words came out my mouth without a lot of forethought, and they surprised me.  I don’t think I had truly realized it until the words spilled out.  I often see my mood as largely dependent on my physical state, and I’ve had plenty of symptoms of various types I could blame in order to justify my mood.  But admitting depression seems to have opened up a space for something else to happen.

One day soon after, I took myself and my journal out for a walk and stopped in at the newest coffee bar in the neighborhood (the plethora of cafes on Piedmont Avenue is truly astounding).  Writing in cafes is an old practice of mine, and one I hadn’t done, hadn’t even thought about doing, in ages.  Out of that little foray, this poem came:

The Shift

Sitting at Blue Bottle Coffee,

journal on the communal

table, latte at hand,

I felt a distinct inner shift

occur, clear and strong,

though I did not quite

trust it.

Brain scientists claim

that it is possible to

carve new neural pathways

by changing the way

that you think.

Some time ago,

I wrote a poem asserting

that I wanted to change

not just my thoughts

but the way I think.

Desire alone could

not accomplish such

a shift, though.

But in that coffee bar,

In the middle of a

gaggle of young hipster

caffeine enthusiasts,

a click happened, and

a new groove opened up

in my brain.

Why then, why there?

A mystery, that.

Perhaps the mostly full cup

sitting by my right hand

provided the necessary image.

I have always been

a glass half-empty

kind of person, suspicious,

fear-based, looking and

waiting for the other shoe

to drop.

What if that shoe stayed

tightly laced onto my foot?

What if I could retrieve 

the already dropped shoe

and walk fully shod

and balanced?

Now that my longed-for

feeling of gratitude shows up at last,

when the needle jumps to the new groove,

the next cut on the album,

I’d be a fool not to sing

the new song.

The next day I called an old friend, and I reserved a house in Yosemite for my whole family to go in celebration of Barry’s and my upcoming 70th birthdays. I’d almost given up on the idea; finding a weekend we could all go was problematic to begin with, and I just couldn’t muster up the energy to try until my son said, “No, we need to do this!  Don’t give up on it.”

A few days after, I screwed up my courage and also signed up for the Writers’ Intensive with the teacher at the end of May.  Movement!  It’s a little terrifying, but I need to go and acknowledge the fact that I am a writer.

I avow that I am willing to work on this glass half-full neural pathway.

It Begins With a Call (Part 28): Hawaii's Gifts

While in Hawaii I had lots of dreams, sometimes remembering three or four a night.  Here is one.  I’m in a small boat with a few others.  A humpback whale comes close to the other side of the boat.  Then, it swims under the boat and surfaces right next to me.  Its eye is very near mine, and it touches me with a flipper and allows me to touch it.  We communicate mentally that neither of us has touched the other species before.  It then goes and tows the boat for a while. 

We do not see any whales on the whole trip, but this dream was a gift.

We were not able to make our usual pilgrimage to Kilauea Iki because the trail down to the crater was closed off on both ends by rock slides from the last eruptions.  A ranger let us know about a much less-known trail to another crater  bordered by a field of lava trees.  It was remarkable, but I did not get the same sacred feeling I always get at Iki.  Still, it is Pele’s turf.  I picked and tossed in some ohelo berries as an offering to Pele and prayed that she help me with my questions about what it means to carry fire.  Who better than Pele to deal with fire!

On the next leg of our healing pilgrimage (see Part 27), we spent a few days in Hawi, which we’ve only ever driven through before.  Our friend Malama and his wife were temporarily caretaking a farm there.  It’s so wonderful to have local connections when you travel.  Malama took us to a most beautiful healing place, a pu’u honua, or refuge, that is being restored by its caretakers.  We were alone in that powerful and gorgeous place.  No tourist would ever know about it or find it without a local guide.

Barry had wanted to respond to some links Malama’s wife had sent us that wove in and through some intense conspiracy theories, often with a right-wing flavor.  Sitting in this quiet, healing garden, we were able to enter deep conversation.  I was impressed with how Barry respectfully spoke about his reactions.  What I found most interesting was that he (with one addition by me) came up with some adages that encapsulated his thinking:

·      Believe nothing, entertain possibilities (courtesy of Caroline Casey).

·      Judge a tree by its fruits.

·      Follow the money.

·      Not my circus, not my monkeys.

I’m not quite sure what this means as far as the pilgrimage goes, but it was a significant moment in a significant place.

Entering the final phase of the trip, back on the Kona coast, but south to coffee country, some of my old symptoms began to reappear.  A few days of lung issues (we had been in fierce wind, practically sand-blasted by it) and the old stomach two-step danced back in.  Barry hurt his neck body surfing, and we spent a morning in the ER.  He was, fortunately, not seriously hurt.

We then spent several days at Manini Beach on Kealakekua Bay.  I’ve always loved it there, but Barry found out some fascinating things about it from a local woman.  It had been a swimming place for ali’i (royal) women only, and a place where they gave birth.  It was kapu (taboo) to others.  Sitting there, I had a nonverbal conversation with a palm tree, realizing I had not been attending to trees at all on this trip.  It just told me, “Accept.”  Yes, well, that is the work.

As I mentioned, we didn’t see whales (or dolphins) the whole trip (turtles and wild boar, yes, sea mammals, no).  But our last morning Barry wanted to swim one last time, so we stopped at Pahoehoe Beach Park in Kona, and there the dolphins were –  several pods of them, some of whom stayed out in view for well over an hour.  It was such a lovely little last Hawaii blessing.  Watching the dolphins leap and spin, I thought of my last four-card SoulCollage® reading, which ended with my card for joy, which includes a laughing Buddha and leaping dolphins.